Do you remember back in the day
where everyone was your friend? Where the only really crowning decision you had
to make about your friends was if they had the shiny Charizard card. What
happened to that? Puberty Happened. Drama Happened. I hate it all. Our
testicles and ovaries started having fits with our bodies and all of the sudden
we started to not like people. We became a lot more exclusive about who we
liked and didn’t like. Damn you testicles and ovaries. You screw up a lot. (pun
intended…)
This post
deals with my opinion on what is the difference between a best friend and a
true friend. How they are so different in my eyes, but also how they can be
so similar. The past couple of months I have thought a lot about this and how it
really shapes our lives. How we cause a lot of drama that can eventually ruin
others. How something so incredible as friendship can be shattered by stupidity
and misunderstanding. I have thought about my own life and the hurt I have
caused, but also about the awesome friends who have stood by me through it all.
And they are the ones who in reality…matter.
What is a
best Friend? We all have them. They are awesome. Sometimes they suck. But all
in all what would we do without those people we call our best friends? To me
they are those friends who you get a long with. That you enjoy spending time
with them so much you need their presence. I am sure we have all felt this. Like
when I don’t see Cody Haslem for a week and I start to have withdrawals. I feel
best friends are incredibly important in every way. However I feel that this is
the more superficial relationship. I have TONS of best friends. If you ask me
who my number one is I wouldn’t know how to answer you. These are the people
who make us feel happy and we enjoy their company. However, I have had a lot of
“best friends” simply die out. The friendship that was once so exciting grows
old and soon you are just acquaintances. Think about all your “besties” in high
school who are now only small pictures in your yearbook who gave your thier numbers that you never called, or said HAGS! (i HATE hags...). Why didn’t the
relationship last? Why do we lose so many friends as we get older? ( i am guessing its cause they wrote HAGS in your yearbook -_-)
What is a
true friend? To me, this term is a lot more intimate. Ask me how many true
friends I have and I could list only a couple. They are the people in my life
who I know will be there for me no matter what happens. We could fight, yell,
attack, maul, and scream at each other, but in the end will be there with me
when I die. They are the people who you don’t have to talk to everyday and when
you see each other you talk about EVERYTHING. They make you not only feel
happy, but comfortable and relaxed. They are the people who you can honestly feel like
yourself around. No hiding. You can tell them ANYTHING. It takes a lot for me to consider you a “true
friend. (Cody you are one…don’t let the above example fool you ;) )” I hope I am
considered one of these kinds of friends to some people. Because to me these people are one of greatest things I have in my life. I would be completely lost without
them. I think we all have these people in our lives. And I feel that
they are the ones who matter.
I have also
thought a lot of how fragile these relationships are. Friendship is a two way
deal, and if one person is not up for the challenge then the relationship
crumbles. I have always thought that true love is not easy. It is something we
all have to fight and sacrifice for. I feel true friendship is the same way.
And I believe that is these kinds of relationships that are the dearest to us. And
I am baffled and angry at people who try and throw it all away. Intentionally
or unintentionally. My mother always says “we hurt the ones we love the most”
but what happens when we hurt our loved ones over and over and over. When do we
finally say enough?
I know this
is kind of long but this has been on my mind as of late. I am so glad I have
both best and true friends. I am thankful that they support me in all that I do.
We are a crazy bunch of psychos, but I feel we are deeply connected. I hope we don’t
let a petty thorn such as drama or misunderstanding ever ruin what we have.
Because if that ever happens, I know I wont go down without a fight.
Weird post I know. Just
love it.
Two songs that express how I am feeling at the moment.
Warning…the Mumford and Sons one is rated R. there is a funny little word that
starts with F that is said thrice. If this offends you…don’t listen. If it doesn’t.
Be prepared to listen to the greatest angry song ever made. Like ever.
